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Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

The New Christmas Sweater

My husband has always liked to wear cardigan sweaters.  For a long time that was not something I wanted many people to know.  They were generally put into the same category as ugly Christmas sweaters.  Now that wearing cardigans is cool I'll let the secret out.

I had been wanting to give him a new cardigan for Christmas for several years, but only this season was I able to find an abundance of choices and finally made a purchase.  He was thrilled with the new one and even threw out two old holely ones from his closet.

I thank the hipsters for the cardigan popularity.  Adding an old cardigan from the Goodwill store as an accessory to jeans and a t-shirt can make any 20-30 year old someone look edgy.  Top it off with a soho hat and thick black rimmed glasses and you've really made a statement. Add a loosely tied tie at the neck for even more awesomeness. Who knew that dressing like old men could become popular?

Now that they've started the trend, you can get new cardigans at the mall instead of worn out ones from the thrift shops.

Someone even has a tumbler photo blog of "Men in Cardigans."

OK, so hubby doesn't look quite as cool as the guys in the photo blog, and he doesn't wear his cardigan over a t-shirt, and if he wears a tie it will be worn properly tight around the neck.  So he's not a hipster; he looks more like this:


But, hey, who doesn't love Mr. Rogers?

Monday, June 20, 2011

Monday Mourning

Questions have been asked why I haven't written a tribute to my mom like I did for my father-in-law after his death.  The truth of the matter is I am keeping a promise.  When I started this blog over four years ago, I wrote about my brother and his struggle with deadly pancreatic cancer.  I didn't sugar-coat my posts, because I have never viewed life with rose-colored glasses. My extended family wasn't happy that I wrote of family matters, and politely requested that I not ever write about my brother or any of them.  I promised them I never would, and to prove my conviction,  I deleted all the posts from those early blog days, and have pretty much limited my posts to generalities when writing about parents and siblings.

Often over the past few years, my mother would bring up a subject or a memory and then about a week later ask me if I wrote about it in my blog. (She didn't have a computer and never actually saw this blog.)  My answer was always no - that I made a promise and I keep my promises.  I was never certain if she actually truly wanted me to write about those things, or if she was testing me and waiting to chastise me in case I ignored her wishes.  I'll never know the answer to that.

One of my blogger friends told me her family and friends LOVE to have her write about them in her blog.  She even has a blog, lovingly filled with humor and sadness, entirely dedicated to her mother who suffers from Alzheimer's.  I'm envious.  People's lives are best honored in written word and shared, even with strangers.  Lessons can be learned, experiences empathized. Oral histories are unreliable and, as generations die, the stories will fade away, like old photographs.


So don't look for extended posts filled with anecdotes of humorous times or exasperating moments with Mom. Her memories will forever be held in the souls of those who loved her and not shared with the public. All I will say is that she was, in the words of those who knew her, " a beautiful woman inside and out," "a very, very nice lady," and "an asset to the local community."  So I guess in some ways this is a tribute after all.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Happy Father's Day

Last living parent, but still lookin' good at 90.5

(FYI: I plan to be back blogging more regularly now.)

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Another family member gone

My father-in-law died Sunday evening.  That makes two parental deaths in seventeen days.  He donated his body to science.  I am not sure what science can do with a 99 year old body, but perhaps someone will learn something from it. 

Here's an article (edited for this post) I wrote four years ago for a local paper about him:

Just after 7:30 weekday mornings, a small, elderly, slightly hunched figure crosses the Patton Street bridge, his pace much quicker than most people half his age. Mr. Moore is making the daily trip to his office, walking seven blocks from his home and later back again. He still has a license to drive his car, but he just prefers walking.


Although he finally retired in December, 2006 (after his 95th birthday) from his long career as a civil engineer, he still goes to his office located at his son’s land surveying business, and helps with outside field work, holding poles or finding stakes.

“Dad can out-walk most of our clients who accompany us while doing field work,” said his son. “They’re always amazed when I tell them how old he is.”

The elder Mr. Moore grew up on a farm near Rushville, IL, where he and his sister attended a one-room schoolhouse. They would ride to school together on the family horse, then slap him on the rear, which would send him back home again. He later attended the University of Illinois where he obtained a civil engineering degree, but it was the middle of the depression when he graduated and any job was hard to find.

He headed to Chicago, where he sold hats. He also pulled rickshaws and sold ice cream at the World’s Fair. There was no job beneath him; he felt any work was better than nothing. He eventually obtained an engineering position in Texas, later moved to Decatur, and to here in 1959, where he opened his own engineering business and was city engineer.

Then in 1962, an accident happened that would have changed most people’s lives. While he was supervising a construction project, a cable line broke that had suspended a construction bucket from a crane. The large metal bucket fell onto Mr. Moore’s head. This was before hardhats were required on jobs.

“I remember going to bed that night and wondering if I would still have a Dad the next morning,” his son reflected. He was 12 years old at the time. “They gave Dad a 50/50 chance of surviving the night.”

The doctors removed over 200 bone chips in Mr. Moore's head, which left a huge dent in his forehead that is still very visible. He had numerous injuries requiring blood transfusions. When he tried to get out of bed several days later, they discovered he also had a broken leg. After only a three week hospital stay, Mr. Moore said he had a business to run and that he was leaving. He did so, despite doctors’ orders. That was the last time he spent a night in a hospital.

Besides the noticeable dent in his forehead, he lost his sense of smell, and therefore cannot taste anything. He is able to discern salty, sweet, and sour, but not individual flavors. He also lost 3 inches in height. All were just minor inconveniences of which he rarely speaks and never complains.

Now 45 years after the accident, Mr. Moore remains healthy and active. He mows his own lawn with a push mower. Until two years ago, he would climb the tree in front of his home to clean gutters, until his son finally put a stop to that. He takes no medications, completes a crossword puzzle or cryptogram every day, reads 2-3 history related books per week, enjoys watching Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune, and eats like a farm-hand.

Monday, April 18, 2011

Storm clouds

Most people get jubilant when April arrives. Even in the gloom of rainy days, they look forward to the budding flowers and warmer temperatures.

For me, I am beginning to dread Aprils. Last year, just before the end of tax season, my office computer died. I was scrambling to get a new one up and running before I lost too many precious work hours. This occurred about three weeks after my parents and my father-in-law were all in the hospital at nearly the same time.  Fortunately, the elderly folk recovered, and I had the new computer working and all files restored within 24 hours. Deadlines were met and clients were happy.

This year, I was whizzing away, feeling very confident that things were very much under control, and I was even thinking it might be a much less stressful end of tax season.  Until April 7th arrived - when I must have angered Thor with my confidence, and he struck me with a jolt.


I arrived at my parents' home at 6:30 am that morning, as I do daily, to fix their breakfast and help my mom with her compression stockings.  I walked into the kitchen and found my mother lying on her back on the floor, eyes glazed and lifeless, and her breathing gurgling and shallow.  I knew she wouldn't make it.  Quickly, unexpectedly, with no pain - just as she wanted.  Brain dead. 32 hours later she was gone, never awakening from  the massive stroke that struck her down.

When they removed the breathing tubes that first morning, I was told it wouldn't be long before she passed, but she didn't follow any of the "normal" routine. They didn't know the women in my family. We're determined and tenacious and obstinate. No one tells us what to do and when, even when oblivious to our surroundings.

After 12 hours of sitting alone with her in the hospital room, she never deteriorated further.  My brother brought my father there for a brief, touching moment, and then we all went home to try to sleep.

I was back before noon the next day while my brother stayed at home with Dad, and only then did things change.  At 2 pm she finally quit fighting.  "Good-bye, Mom. Have a great trip," I said.  Two days later we buried her.

And then last week, my father-in-law went into hospice care...

Saturday, December 11, 2010

TGI Saturday!

What a week!  I'm finally back and all three parents are now home from the various hospitals.  Yes, they were not all in the same hospital but at least they were in the same town.

FIL, who gave us a scare earlier this year, has amazed us again and recovered from pneumonia, an ear infection, and very serious sepsis. We knew he was back to normal when he did the Crypt-o-quote on Thursday.  He will be home to celebrate his 99th birthday next week.

What was originally thought to be more serious for one of my parents during an emergency room trip, turned out to be dehydration from intestinal flu.  The original diagnosis was discarded when the following day the other parent and my brother came down with vomiting and diarrhea. So my two parents were in the hospital getting fluids while my brother took care of himself and I cleaned the bathrooms.  We brought them back home on Wednesday.

I was bragging to them about how cautious I had been using latex gloves and sanitizers and how I rarely get sick because I have such a great immune system, when Mother Nature had had enough of my boastfulness and decided to make me pay for it. Thursday morning brought me 8 hours of misery ejecting fluids simultaneously from top and bottom, followed by 12 hours of sleep, and Friday spent gaining back my strength. I haven't been this sick in decades.



It is hard enough to deal with this kind of illness when you are normally very healthy and have the ability to run very fast, shower, and clean the bathroom before the next wave begins.  When one is elderly, however, and needs medical equipment simply to walk, speed isn't an option and the results are humiliating and degrading to the ailing patient.  If I find out who gave this to my dad and started it all, I'm gonna make him pay!

Of course, now that it is all over and under control, we laugh about how most of our discussions this week involved bodily fluids - blood, mucus, phlegm, vomit, diarrhea, urine.  Why there wasn't any pus this week is a mystery to all of us. The fact that semen was absent wasn't even questioned.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Quick update

Maximum number was reached this morning. 

Monday, December 6, 2010

This blog may be quiet for a few days

I am getting mighty close to the maximum number of my parents who can be in the hospital at the same time. Even the lone wolf remaining needs assistance.

Despite what Meatloaf said, 2 out of 3 is bad.

Friday, September 24, 2010

Photo Friday - from the family album

I have always loved these pictures of my paternal grandparents.  I may be very biased, but I think that they were a rather striking couple in their youth.

This is a picture of my grandmother taken in 1900 at the age of 14. Her eyes are mysteriously haunting and almost sad, don't you think?



This is my grandfather who was a bit older, but I think this picture was taken not many years after my grandmother's photo from above.  As a young adult, he worked for a while as a trolley conductor in Chicago and someone must have convinced him to be photographed in his uniform.

Both grandmother and grandfather had the same last name, but were not related.  The immigrant Swedes, like others at the time, didn't like their children to marry outside the nationality.  Things changed by the next generation; their younger son married my mother who was of Norwegian and German descent.

My grandfather's family members were tall; my grandmother's family members were short. Today's generation of the family have both, and I have the distinction of being the shortest of them all.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

On a personal note

Catcher spent a lovely evening this weekend attending a farm anniversary party at her younger daughter's (Annie Oakley) business/home.  Each year in September there is an outdoor party to thank the equine and canine owners and customers.  That results in an eclectic mix of humans and pets having a grand time.

The dogs played on the agility course.

The old farm dog didn't know where to stop and thought a picnic table was another obstacle.  Fortunately we were finished eating.  Catcher thought it amusing.


My daughter's friend promised she'd bring her hairy little ass to the party, and she did.

The kids loved riding on it.


And the miniature horse, too.

There were also baby goats to play with and

white baby bunnies with red eyes

The grown-ups rode the big horses
and did some trap shooting.

Catcher and Annie Oakley made silly faces for the camera while my nearly 99 year old FIL took in all in. He has finally recovered from his infirmities enough to get out and enjoy the world again.
Of course there was lots of food along with the fun, but we were all too busy eating to take pictures.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Taking a break

No Tuesday Titillation this week. My daughter and her husband are here for about 36 hours from San Francisco, and I don't want to take even one minute away from them.

I haven't seen them in person since December, but thanks to Skype we can at least hug our computer monitors and pretend. But real visits are sooooooo much better than virtual ones!

I'll be back on the blog on Wednesday some time.

Monday, January 26, 2009

And it won't come back to haunt him

You know you're married to a fantastic woman when you can go to a University of Illinois basketball game with some guys on your wedding anniversary and you don't even have to ask permission to do so.

I know, I'm one of a kind.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

It may suprise you, but I like them both

On the one hand, we have a woman who is the epitome of a frontier woman; she loves the outdoors, animals, can fire a shotgun, and hunt as well as any man. She wears her hair away from her face to look more professional, but when she lets the shoulder-length mane fall, we see her natural beauty and those great legs poking out beneath the skirt. Her infectious smile charms us and belies an intelligence deep within that she often hides. She believes that hard work, personal responsibility and entrepreneurship are what keep this country great and that government and entitlements are not the answer.

That other one is an attractive, articulate intellectual with a similarly described spouse Both spouses have professional careers and in addition have been community organizers, volunteers, fundraisers, and champions of the underdog. They are a team who believes in health care for all, higher taxes to help those less fortunate, and global warming. They surround themselves with friends whom some might consider radical, but are at most leftist liberals of varying ethnicity and sexual orientation.

I can't help it. I like them both.

After all, they are my daughters.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

It sucks!

Now that the pirate bugs are gone and the Asian beetles have appeared,my husband produced his latest purchase - a bug vacuum. I thought he was nuts, but this product is great.

Those Asian beetles that have dared to enter our home this year have been humanely sucked into the portable vacuum to their deaths. No nasty chemicals. Cordless w/rechargeable battery.
The bug vacuum costs about $49.95 and is available at Hammacher-Schlemmer, Sears, and on line stores.

Works on spiders and flies too. It's very entertaining to use, but not quite as much fun as stomping a large beetle on the sidewalk and hearing the crunch and watching the ooze. Beware: cats don't seem to like this gadget.

Friday, March 14, 2008

Gifted kid, smart parents





Here's what happens when parents don't run to a TV station to seek help for a toddler who reads at an early age. She grows up to be a bedazzling diva groupie of Leslie and the Lys. She has always been different, but a whole lotta fun sort of way.







That's daughter (on left) with friend and The Leslie in the middle.










Hubby jointed in the gemtastic attire.

Rhea at Boomer Chronicles also met Leslie in person.

Monday, March 10, 2008

Gifted kid, dumb parents

Here we go again. Another couple shoving their gifted child into the spotlight. The mother, with tears in her eyes, says her daughter is so different - "it's not easy to be different. That worries me."

So worried they were, that they ran straight to the local TV station to "reach out for experts who could help..."

Some of you know that my oldest daughter was doing the same thing at an even earlier age, but we hadn't taught her sign language or drilled her. She just started reading. Did we run to the local tv station for help? Did we put her on display to reinforce the fact that she was different? Absolutely not.

We rejoiced in the fact that she loved reading and gave her all the books she could handle emotionally. By the time she was three it was becoming more difficult to find emotionally appropriate material. Then we sought help, not from television, but at the nearby big university who had experts in early childhood development, and from teacher friends, family physician and other real experts.

If these parents are really worried about their child being different, quit parading her around in the public like a freak and do some real parenting.

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Family friendly movie favorites

Since the Academy Awards are tonight and so many of today's movies are filled with blood, gore, and violence, I thought I'd make a short list of some older great children/family friendly movies I have enjoyed with my family over the years. Some are obvious, some are more obscure. Some are foreign films that may be difficult for very young children. Many are not only entertaining but have deep lessons of tolerance, morality, perseverance and strength. Many have strong female leading characters which I guess was influenced by the fact that I have two daughters.

1. Frog - a 1987 made for TV flick by Wonderworks; Elliott Gould, Shelley Duvall, Scott Grimes, and Paul Williams. Don't confuse this with the sequel "Frogs!"; the original is the best one. The whole family will be singing "That's amore" by the time it's over.

2. Rabbit Proof Fence - 2002 - Rated PG - Excellent for older kids; based on true story of 3 girls making their way back home alone across the Australian outback in 1931.

3. Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory - 1971- Rated G - might be scary and a bit rough for really young ones, but I think this version is better than Johnny Depp's recent remake. Great music, great acting, great lessons.

4. Whale Rider - 2002 - New Zealand film rated PG-13 - an 11 year old girl believes she is destined to be chief of her Maori family tribe; strong relationship between girl and her grandfather

5. Children of Heaven - 1997 - Rated PG - a poor Iranian boy loses his sister's only pair of shoes, so he and his sister share one pair; (sub-titles)

6. Millions - 2005 - Rated PG - two English boys find millions of dollars; one wants to spend it, one wants to give it away

7. My Dog Skip - 2000 - Rated PG - lonely kid comes out of his shell because of a dog

8. Her Majesty - 2001 - Rated PG - New Zealand film - 13 yr old girl has lifetime dream of meeting the Queen and finds her chance to fulfill it

9. The Man from Snowy River - 1982 - Rated PG - a western the whole family can enjoy; beautiful scenery

10. I Am David - 2003 - Rated PG - 12 yr old boy escapes Communist concentration camp with only a loaf of bread and a letter to deliver to someone in Denmark; another movie about a strong, determined child

11. The Secret of Roan Inish - 1994 - Rated PG - Irish fairy tale; quiet, slow moving, but great story.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

Riddle

What do two people get for $20, a 3 minute quickie, and an appearance before a judge?

A marriage ceremony.

What happens after a 3 minute ceremony? Lunch at Silvercreek, then both go back to work.

Happy 16th anniversary, hubby.