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Monday, November 9, 2009

Bitter Feminist #1

My previous post stirred up some debate about the definition of feminist and the use of the word bitter in describing some of them. Therefore I will now occasionally post real-life incidents I have observed or read about of self-described feminists whom I consider (my opinion only) to be bitter.

Here is my first example.

A self-described feminist in an office setting tells co-workers that she is leaving to get a cup of coffee. A male co-worker in the office asks politely, "Would you mind bringing me back a cup of black coffee?"

Her reply : "I didn't get a PhD to serve as somebody's waitress."

This incident was told directly to me by the feminist at a dinner party. I asked her if the man was sarcastic in his request. She indicated no. I commented that perhaps he simply wanted a cup of coffee and since she was going to the break room... It made no difference to her, she thought the request was degrading.


Crockhead said...

OK, Catch, I'll let you call her bitter. She sounds kind of proud of what she did. The bitch.

But, don't you think she might have been reacting to the practice in some offices where the woman is expected to make and fetch coffee, even if she is on the same level as her co-workers? I think I've heard of that sort of thing happening.

Catch Her in the Wry said...

That never came up in our discussion, but based on our conversation I would say no.

Terminating the expectation of a woman to make and fetch coffee when she really doesn't want to can be easily solved. Simply make a really bad pot of coffee, and keep doing so. The requests will eventually stop.

Crockhead said...

LOL. Except there are some perfectionist women I know who would rather die than make a bad pot of coffee.

Catch Her in the Wry said...

Then those perfectionist women shouldn't complain if asked to make coffee. It feeds their ego.

Jason said...

I work almost exclusively with guys, so I don't even have the opportunity to have this encounter, but I think people on an equal level commonly will say things like "... as long as you're there, could you whatever?" If he asked her to hand him a stapler that was close to her, would she object? I think this is a good example of someone creating controversy out of an innocent situation.

Catch Her in the Wry said...

Jason: That's why I consider that type of woman bitter and even man-hating. She probably would have reacted differently had the request been made from a woman. I feel so sorry for the poor guy she works with.